Only things we have done that hurt others can hurt us at the level of spirit. And only things we deny can hurt us at the level of soul.

Talking about things at the level of soul – our feelings, perceptions and emotions – sometimes we are not aware of things we don’t accept. For example we may believe that we accept someone or something we adore, we may think that we accept him (or it) even too much, because we don’t see his/her/its bad qualities. But do we really accept those bad qualities? Or may be we don’t see them due to ignorance? May be we don’t see the entire being, may be we even don’t want to? There is an illusion that we may ignore something and feel better, this may be true for rare things with we are not yet ready for, but usually such ignorance hurts our further perception and feelings.
From this point of view melancholy is also a form of inacceptance – when one doesn’t accept traumatic nature of a situation.
Willingness to accept usually is the first (and sometimes the only needed) step towards acceptance. A practical way of making the intention to fully accept someone or something is a little “meditation” – you can ask the Angels for guidance, sit comfortably and do a little holodynamics-like session. Remember that Angels are always ready to help you with any concern, including situations involving other people, they only thing Angels need is your permission or request. So ask angels to guide you in this session, tell them about what you couldn’t accept and “listen” for their response through feelings, visions, ideas etc. If it is comfortable you can imagine the person or situation you are willing to accept in front of you, tell the person or situation that you want to accept entire him (her or it). If you feel any disagreement or unforgiveness towards the other person tell him (her) that you want to accept and forgive his past choices (remember that acceptance does not mean that you agree or support that action). Tell that you want to see entire person or situation (all characters of the person or all aspects of the situation) and ask Angels to help seeing and accepting the person’s entire being or entire situation. If the situation involves other people that you previously haven’t thought about, or other new details, tell them that you see them, tell that you want to see them and ask Angels help to accept them. Ask Angels to help you to forgive and heal any negative past experiences you had with this person or situation. Ask Angels to harmonize those past experiences and clean you and everyone involved from any negative residue left from those situations or experiences with the other person. During the entire session follow your intuition, feelings, insights and all other guidance you receive from the Angels. Remember that not every situation must be fully understood at the level of mind – there might be situations that can and will be accepted at the level of soul without knowing the details at the level of mind. Most likely you will receive a sign (feeling, thought etc.) from the Angels when you will have completed the session. Afterwards you can thank everyone involved (including yourself, God and the Angels) and follow the guidance with ideas what you could do after the session (e.g. spend some quiet time with yourself, go for a walk, sleep or meet someone).